Love Better. Live Better.
It’s common practice this time of year to make personal resolutions: lose weight; eat better; save more. But have you ever thought about sitting down with your partner and making resolutions for your relationship? Not only would you improve one of the most important aspects of your life, but you’d have some built-in accountability! Here …
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Dearest readers, I am writing because you have been on my mind. All of you. You see, I recently uncovered a profound truth about all of us. We are all walking around with broken hearts. That’s right. Everyone, myself included. And if you think about it, it can really only be this way. As humans, …
Shame is a big player in a man’s life. He will go to great lengths to avoid it. He will go to greater lengths to medicate it. But where does it come from? Read on to learn the vital role shame occupies early on, and how most men get shame wrong. Language Matters: Having Shame …
We all know that feeling: the slow, fermenting desire for something missing; the visceral ache that roils within us; the bittersweet anticipation of that which we may never get. This is longing. Longing is among the more alluring qualities of romantic love. It is the spark that ignites our imaginations, fuels our passions, and drives …
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”3.21.3″ custom_padding=”17px|0px|54px|0px|false|false”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”3.21.3″][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.21.3″][et_pb_text _builder_version=”3.21.3″] The secret to an emotionally rich relationship is emotionally rich communication. If we want to sustain positive, vital energy in our relationship, we must become experts in telling the truth — about what we see, what we think, what we feel, and what we want. This kind …
[et_pb_section fb_built=”1″ _builder_version=”3.21.3″ custom_padding=”0|0px|54px|0px|false|false”][et_pb_row _builder_version=”3.21.3″][et_pb_column type=”4_4″ _builder_version=”3.21.3″][et_pb_text _builder_version=”3.21.3″] When you think of commitment, what comes to mind? If you’re like most people, the term commitment refers to the status of your relationship. You are either “in” a committed relationship, or you’re not. For some couples, “commitment” is simply synonymous with “exclusive.” Not that you asked …
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A Couples Intensive is a day-long session that proceeds with the explicit goal of getting to the heart of your problems and evaluating each partner’s willingness to make necessary changes. I offer this format as an alternative to traditional weekly therapy. It is designed for couples who are in crisis, who have not benefited from …
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None of us exist in a vacuum. The “personal problems” that bring us to therapy are always silhouetted against a cultural backdrop, one that — depending on the climate at any given moment — can either support or undermine our growth and healing. In the worst cases, the social structures that create our wounds themselves …
Lost, but Not for Words Marcus and Maria, like many embattled couples, arrive in my office and head for opposite ends of the couch. Their simultaneous plop-down strikes me as the most coordinated effort they’ve mustered in months. In unison, each hugs the armrest as though they might be able to stretch the underlying structure …
This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the loving relationships we truly desire. The word ‘vital’ has been used here intentionally for its dual significance; these skills are not only essential, they are life-giving. The time and energy …
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