5 Reasons To Choose Couples Intensive Over Traditional Therapy
A Couples Intensive is a day-long session that proceeds with the explicit goal of getting to the heart of your problems and evaluating each partner’s …
#MeToo in the Therapy Room
None of us exist in a vacuum. The “personal problems” that bring us to therapy are always silhouetted against a cultural backdrop, one that — …
Meditations on Loving and Losing
Lost, but Not for Words Marcus and Maria, like many embattled couples, arrive in my office and head for opposite ends of the couch. Their …
Vital Skill #4: Discover the Gift of Co-Regulation
This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the …
Vital Skill #3: Practice the Art of Appreciation
This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the …
Vital Skill #2: Move From Correcting to Protecting
In my last post, I introduced the idea of binocular vision, which Steven Stosny and Pat Love define as the conscious effort to consider our …
Vital Skill #1: Develop Binocular Vision
This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the …
Becoming Sensitive to the Sacred
Dearest Readers, If I’ve learned anything, it’s that relationships are at once fundamental and transcendental. One of the challenges for those of us who presume to …
6 Things to Know About Infidelity
The revelation of an infidelity is an intense experience for both the offending and the hurt partner. The aftermath is a period of overwhelming shock, …
How To Recognize an Ambivalent Partner (Even If It’s You)
It is normal to experience uncertainty about your relationship, particularly in the beginning. If, however, you are consistently on the fence about your partner, it …