Intimate Conversations

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Vital Skill #3: Practice the Art of Appreciation

This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the loving relationships we truly desire. The word ‘vital’ has been used here intentionally for its dual significance; these skills are...

Vital Skill #2: Move From Correcting to Protecting

In my last post, I introduced the idea of binocular vision, which Steven Stosny and Pat Love define as the conscious effort to consider our partners’ point of view. Binocular vision sets the stage for a radically new way of handling conflict, what I refer to as a...

Vital Skill #1: Develop Binocular Vision

This post is part of my Vital Skills series, a collection of 10 non-negotiable practices we absolutely must hone if we are to craft the loving relationships we truly desire. The word ‘vital’ has been used here intentionally for its dual significance; these skills are...

Becoming Sensitive to the Sacred

Dearest Readers, If I've learned anything, it's that relationships are at once fundamental and transcendental. One of the challenges for those of us who presume to study them is that we are constantly pulling focus in order to appreciate their essence at different...

6 Things to Know About Infidelity

The revelation of an infidelity is an intense experience for both the offending and the hurt partner. The aftermath is a period of overwhelming shock, confusion, pain, and uncertainty. Partners have tremendous difficulty making sense of their own hurt, much less...

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